Stop Being an Asshole, the HR Guide to Being a Decent Human Being at Work

In today's fast-paced and ever-evolving workplace, it's easy to get caught up in the daily grind and forget the simple yet crucial aspect of being a decent human being. We spend a lot of time at work, and we all play a role in fostering a positive and inclusive work environment. Today I want to talk about the principles of not being an asshole at work, with a focus on adjusting to change, being sensitive to everyone's outside-of-work lives and avoiding unnecessary conflicts.

Change is an inevitable part of the modern workplace. Whether it's a shift in company strategy, the implementation of new technology, or changes in team dynamics, how you respond to these changes says a lot about your character. Embracing change with an open mind and a willingness to learn and recognize that change is necessary for growth and improvement. Understand that not everyone adapts to change at the same pace. Be patient with colleagues who might struggle with transitions. Offer your support and lend a helping hand when necessary. If you supervise employees, including our student employees, maintain open lines of communication because transparency can alleviate anxiety and uncertainty. Ensure that employees have a platform to express their concerns and questions.

It's vital to remember that everyone has a life outside of work, complete with challenges, joys, and responsibilities. Being considerate of these aspects can significantly improve workplace dynamics. Understand that personal commitments, family, and health issues can impact an employee's attitude, performance, and well-being. If you see a distinguishable difference in an employee's attitude, show empathy and support when employees are facing personal difficulties. Offering a helping hand, a listening ear, or access to Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) can make a world of difference. Whenever possible, provide flexibility in work arrangements to accommodate personal needs. Flextime, remote work options, or compressed workweeks can help employees to better manage their outside-of-work responsibilities. Work-life integration is a holistic approach that recognizes that our work and personal lives are not separate entities but interconnected aspects of our overall well-being.

Conflict in the workplace is inevitable, but there's a significant difference between constructive disagreement and being difficult for no reason. Strive to be a source of positivity and collaboration. When offering feedback, focus on solutions rather than pointing fingers. Encourage a culture of constructive criticism, where feedback is meant to improve, not criticize. Listen actively and attentively to your colleagues' concerns and perspectives. Seek to understand before making judgments or assumptions. Disagreements are healthy when handled respectfully. Avoid personal attacks, derogatory language, or undermining your colleagues' contributions.

Promoting a harmonious and respectful workplace is important. By adhering to these principles of not being an asshole at work—adjusting to change, being sensitive to personal lives, and avoiding unnecessary conflict—we can create an environment where employees feel valued, supported, and motivated. In doing so, we not only enhance our professional lives but also contribute to the overall success of our organizations. Remember, being a decent human being at work is not just a personal choice; it's an essential part of our professional responsibility.

© Stop Being an Asshole, the HR Guide to Being a Decent Human Being at Work by Alicia Bervine